A cancer diagnosis does change your life, and although at the beginning there may be dismay, anger, even an element of denial, eventually there has to be acceptance and finding a way of working with the illness. I speak as someone who has had blood cancer, and for a parent and carer it will affect in other ways. I was fortunate that when I was eventually diagnosed I had a team that I could place my faith in, and even though I had lots of complications during treatment, I still felt that they were all doing their best for me.
After treatment I no longer had children living at home, and I could no longer work. I was no longer able to enjoy many of the leisure activities that I had previously, and had lost my confidence. I had to learn how to go out by myself, get used to crowds and be on busy streets again. It took me 5 years, and a spur of the moment decision to buy a Fiat 500, to get me driving again. I only drive about 500 miles a year, but it allows me a little independence.
I’m thankful that I am a glass half full gal, as dealing with anxiety and panic attacks after treatment eventually finished was difficult, but I was determined to make the most of the second phase of my life. Having a great family and many friends has also been a great help. My cloud had a silver lining, still being around to see my children settled and having time to enjoy the four grandchildren that I never dreamt I would see.
Like @MrsGriff, my volunteer work with Bloodwise has also been a lifeline